Don't be a DUNDAHEAD

A friend of mine once told me that it is in our nature as human beings to make decisions based on irrational thought. Some people, I find, are lost in their being and make the mistake of deciding on something that they are not completely comfortable with. The backend of these decisions, often leads to them placing blame on others for their actions. I believe strongly in the law of FREEDOM OF CHOICE. We are so quick to point out our failures which we embed in the 'influence' of the people with whom we surround ourselves. What is it though, that allows us to feel righteous in placing blame on other people. Is the regret that arouses oneself, a reflection of one lacking a sense of mental strength?

I had once experienced a friendship which was slightly erratic, but for the most part, thought to be magical. Sometimes we become lost in the magic that we create in our lives and the overwhelming sensations tend to become overbearing. When one feels overwhelmed, there are generally two roads that one can take. You can either ride out the wave and explore the intensity of your relationship. Or you can choose to surf in another region with your eyes closed, not knowing whether the grass is really greener. The latter option is daunting, for sure, but it often leads to greater discoveries about self and may even allow for one to gain a wider perspective of honesty.

I feel that a lot of us depreciate the value of others in our lives and that we are mostly unaware of the extent to which others will fly for us. I say fly here, because I think that any relationship should be based on the ideals of bliss, that one would find on Cloud 9 perhaps. We are too comfortable in our arrogance and take for granted the magic that can be found in others.

People often outgrow each other and relationships dissolve right in front of our eyes. What baffles me, is when we have regrets about those relationships ending. It is not in our nature to constantly chop and change the people who we are considered close to. It is ultimately a resolution for self and something that is only comprehensive to the indivudual concerned. We need not isolate ourselves in the loss of a loved one: friend, family or lover. We need to remember that we cannot befriend everyone around us and that some friendships work like a short-term contract of convenience. Find that sense of belonging and never give up on the people in your life, for it is because of them that you are still able to thrive every day. Loneliness in isolaton is a deal-breaker for the greater human race.

I feel more mature in my being and am thoroughly enjoying having to grow up, fast. The time is now for us to unite with those who we wish to carry through to the finish line. For those that are not here now, IT IS LATE!

Decide now, how you wish to conduct your relationships with people and with whom you wish to share your struggle. Those who are not willing to be there for you in your struggle are not worth sharing your gold piece with at the end of the day. Sometimes we prolong our relationships due to the idea of time. Have you found that there are some people who you wish to cut from your system, but feel pressured by the amount of time that you have known each other? Well do not allow that to deter you. If you need to cut them from the umbilical cord, then do so. I just say that you make sure to TAKE THE LEAD and  to be honest in your disengagement with those who were once close to you. There is nothing worse than being left in the dark and we all need to strive to provide others with the consistent piece of mind that we are all yearning for.

Bisous tous les jours,

Queen Ipel of the *UNIVERSE*/Glass Table Girl x

P.S. Flourish in your being.