The Look Of Love
R18
How do you really feel someone, without having them inside of you for at least 15 minutes (or less, if you please, each to his own). Sex has become one of the most integral parts of our existence and it is in my belief that we need to redirect our focus at times in light of transferring the energy herewith; using it to power ourselves into having a finer comprehension of our interactions with others.
When it comes to making love, there are plentiful, easily avoidable, rookie errors that are still made, to this day. The most essential error being: A misunderstanding of the present moment. What is it about sex that allows us to transform into these fiends of love? If someone loves you, it should be evident in their behaviour and the way in which they connect with you. Sex is just sex at the end of the day and the emphasis that has been placed on it as a concept is becoming scarier each day.
A lot of women often make the 'mistake' of allowing themselves to believe that when they sleep with someone, it calls for a relationship or the development of their connection with that person. Here is an idea... Why not develop the relationship first AND THEN have sex? Other women often believe in waiting for the right person (which is okay). What happens though, if the other party is not interested in developing a relationship? Or the man that you waited for, that perfect being, happens to be improper down South? These are questions that are frequently asked and frequently ignored, because we are all taught that love prevails. Yes, love and love-making are somewhat interlinked, but if you separate the two, you will see that they are two very different concepts and I believe that they should be treated as such, in more instances than not. Most women fail to recognise the sexual liberation of other women; thus judging the sexual choices of the liberal; as if it were a reflection of their own moral fibre.
Sometimes sex is simply that: one, two or more people engaged physically in their sensuality, to have A GOOD TIME!
Many men, are sl*ts, but that makes them cool, in the eyes of others. To other men, they are THE MAN. To women, they are a challenge to take on; in the aims of being THE ONE to change their behaviour (Do not try this at home). A lot of men want women to be free. They are looking for the 'right girl'. The one that they want to marry. In the interim, they are flooded by a pool of dehydrated predators, waiting to touch their toes on any given Sunday; whilst the ones that they 'should have' married are forever lost; due to conditioned factors such as big egos and emotional revenge.
My question on sex, today is: If one is sexually active from the time that one loses ones virginity, for a period of five years; then one deactivates ones sexual engagement for a period of ten years, then what does that make one? Technically, one would have been active for less years than one was active; thus regenerating ones virginity, right? Biology says NO! The Church says YES.
I SAY THAT SOCIETY IS CONFUSED BEYOND REASONABLE DOUBT!
Society is completely obsessed with labelling people. Amongst us, there are sl*ts, playas, losers, virgins, loose girls, dodge boys etc. I think that we need to rid ourselves of any associations with such and be free in our existence. If a woman wants to sleep with thirty men in ten years, that is her choice as it is the choice of a man. This amounts to an average of three partners per year which, is apparently an ordinary number of sexual partners.
Many a time I have seen powerful women use and discard men as fast as they do, one-ply toilet paper. This automatically deems the woman as 'not serious' or 'A bad girl'. When men do the same, they have game. Why is there such a vast difference between they way in which women engage sexually and the way that men do? This is something that I have yet to understand. We have been brainwashed into believing that we are not the same. Physically, yes. Spiritually, no, Sexually? Woman need to have and think about sex as often, some more, than men do.
SOCIETY HAS JUST PLACED RESTRICTIONS ON THE EXPRESSION OF THESE NEEDS AND THE CONSEQUENCES ATTACHED TO THEM.
We are all one, we are all born under the house of mother nature and we all need to understand that when we act sexually, it is not always in the aims of affecting the next person. It is a mere act of self-will.
I am certainly not advocating being 'loose' and I will always vouch for the ideas of contraception and abstinence, I am just wondering if there is a deeper meaning to the ideals of love and love-making. We need to separate the two concepts and then we will have a better understanding of physical engagement as a whole. Sometimes, sex is just that: SEX!
A friend of mine once told us at a dinner party, that he would love it if him and his girlfriend could find a third partner. Obviously, this was not a good move; as most of the party-goers felt offended that one would ever consider such a disgusting form of loving. They called it greed, to be more specific. He was not interested in polygamy though. Him and his lady are simply trying to redefine their relationship. 'What about your kids' - WHAT KIDS?, 'What will people say?' - F*CK PEOPLE, 'It is going to be hard' - FOR WHO?. I do not know how such a relationship would work out, but monogamy appears to be the most difficult definition of a relationship for the most part, for most couples, is it not?
Think of it this way: You are an employee at a corporate firm. You are extremely bored with your mundane routine of driving to the office and staring at a computer screen, the dry walls and the even drier faces, everyday. You decide that it is time that you introduce a new form of working to your life, in order to balance out the boredom that comes with it; so you take on a job that allows you to work from home. It is the same work, but the nature of the environment allows for you to be more free and own more of your time; thus re-igniting and reminding you of your love for the work that you do. The home environment is the third element, in this case; which allows for you and your computer to be free in your movement and you are given enough space to really consider your role in fulfilling your duties. You know that you are at home, with nobody there to monitor you, but yourself. You feel more connected with yourself and your environment and you are not 'stuck' with the same old routines that you have allowed yourself to become absorbed by over the past few years.
We need to have a better understanding of each other and the ways in which we choose to grow as individuals and apart. To make love is to be in love, with another and yourself. To be confident in the connection that you share and to understand the moment that you are in. When we are bound by our sexual organs, we are torn between the ideas of love and physical connection and when we are lucky enough to find both, at the same time, we always feel the need to protect ourselves against any harm instead of living through the bliss that is shared. Every move seems calculated. The 'risks' involved form the foundation for our decision-making processes. We need to be fearless in love and even more-so in love-making. Our biggest fear is not that we are powerful beyond measure. Our biggest fear is allowing ourselves to fall in love. Our biggest fear is being unable to perform better, sexually, than the previous man or woman. Our biggest fear is knowing that previous partner and the connection that was once shared and our ability to surpass those standards.
Our biggest fear is that we will be chowed and chucked.
The answer to feeling someone is maintained in contacting them through their eyes, which will guide you to their soul. We will better understand our interactions with each other when we truly understand that the naked eye holds no lies and the naked body holds no fears.
HAVE A BLESSED DAY!
Best,
Khaleesi x
P.S. As life changes rapidly, we slowly evolve into a more concrete form of ourselves. We should accept the metamorphosis of others too, not forgetting the purity of our connections with each other.' - Ipeleng Motuba.
