Give birth like a G!
Why are so many children created in a willy-nilly fashion?
A month or so ago, I was blessed to be surrounded by some close friends over a celebratory dinner that I hosted. At the dinner, my mates mentioned a movie, that is based on a book by Lionel Shriver called:
'We Need To Talk About Kevin'.
I watched this movie a few hours ago and I can tell you that it has changed my life. I believe that it is a movie that every person in the world needs to watch; as it invokes fear within the soul and deeper thought behind the ideals of parenting and making decisions for self. It depicts the strength of a mother whose view on her life has become diminished in the role of loving her child: who is a menace beyond the realms of psychosis. The darkness of this movie not only makes one think twice about having children at all, but it also opens up ones mind in a way that is unimaginable. The mind is a powerful tool that often overshadows thoughts from the heart and this is one of the most detrimental defects of our existence.
Imagine giving birth to a healthy child whose sole purpose it is, is to consciously/subconsciously destroy your sense of happiness in the worst ways fathomable. A child who is born with a dark mindset that only enriches itself as he or she grows older. Nothing can prepare us for the birth of another soul. Society has defined good and bad children for many generations, but there is no comparison to the bad nature of the character of the child in this movie. There is no level of intellect or intuition that could ease his parents responsibility in his life. The weirdest part, for me though, was the lack of synchronicity between the parents and their parenting-style. The idea behind parenting lies in the fact that it is 'team-work' right? There are so many households that are lead by parents who do not really see eye-to-eye on their style of upbringing, but these are 'problems' that one should discuss prior to entering a union with ones partner as far as I have been taught.
The question in mind today is: When one parent is completely favoured by their child, to the point of absolute manipulation, where does the balancing act come in; whereby that same parent begins to stimulate the same sense of favour, for the unfavourable parent?
It is common in these situations that one may find that the favoured parent thrives on the nature of their relationship with the child and fails to acknowledge the lack of such a relationship between the child and their better-half. It is very easy to succumb to the attention that is attached to being favoured by another being, but when do we stop indulging in the flattery and start paying attention to the energy exchange that we experience with every interaction?
It is obvious that this film has thoroughly grabbed my attention and it has certainly made me reconsider my views of having children and giving birth. One could see that this woman was not elated during her pregnancy. From the point of gestation to the end of the movie, one can tell that she constantly questions having bore this child into the world. Her eyes tell a story that her heart speaks true and through all of her turmoil and all of her joy, she remained committed to her duty as a mother and a wife; as she loved her child in the most unconditional of ways.
She is committed to her love, because she made the choice to give birth and she shows a strength that has made me more aware of the power within. A strength that cannot be matched to any pain, loss or guilt that I have felt in my life. This is a story of a woman who deserves to love. The tale of two polar worlds that inspire those living in it to act beyond the capacity of their abilities. A story that I am grateful to not be living, but one that has reaffirmed my desire to be alive.
WATCH IT!
Best,
Khaleesi of the *Universe* x
P.S.
FYI: "Historical and anthropological literature shows that lying down for birth is a relatively modern phenomenon, as we have moved from a more social to a surgical model of care. As far back as written records, carvings and paintings go, women have given birth upright – whether it was using stacked bricks to create a primitive birthing stool or holding onto leaves and ropes hung from trees. A famous drawing from Egypt depicts Cleopatra (69-30 BC) kneeling to give birth.
